The 7 Diseases of the Attitude* Cont.

“Most of the articles that I write for this monthly e-Zine have to do with personal character traits. I believe leadership is all about character and attitude. This includes things like temperament, personality, disposition, energy, stamina, strength, and most importantly, moral fiber. All of these areas require learning and discipline. The following seven negative character traits are listed to help you recognize them and avoid them.” (Taken from the Aug. 10th blog post)

4. Worry: Comes from fear and is fed by indecision. Worry is wasted mental energy forged in idleness. It causes health problems, social problems, economic problems, and family problems. Most of what we worry about never happens. CURE: Take action.

5. Over-caution: Timid approach to life and definitely not a leadership quality. Brought on by failing to take risks when an opportunity arises. CURE: Focus on the benefit of the opportunity, not on the risk.

6. Pessimism: Gloomiest possible view of a situation that develops into a false mental image that becomes insurmountable and overwhelming. CURE: Focus on the good in every person and situation. Tell yourself, “This is not a problem; I can do it!”

7. Complaining: Whining, crying, griping, and expressing dissatisfaction and resentment. People who engage in constant complaining are not interested in results and tend to pull themselves and others down emotionally and physically. CURE: Develop a cheerful, happy, positive outlook on life.

Sorry, but there is no immunization for these diseases. We all suffer from them at one time or another, and to some degree or another. Like any disease, the important thing is to recognize it in its early stage and apply the cure.

*In one of my personal journals dated November 1990, I found notes that I apparently had taken from a seminar I had attended, but did not write down the name of the instructor, so I cannot give credit. I Googled the title and found an article similar to my notes, but no author was credited. Although the title and general outline were authored by someone else, the comments are mostly mine.

Frank Massine

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The 7 Diseases of the Attitude*

Most of the articles that I write have to do with personal character traits. I believe leadership is all about character and attitude. This includes things like temperament, personality, disposition, energy, stamina, strength, and most importantly, moral fiber. All of these areas require learning and discipline. The following seven negative character traits are listed to help you recognize them and avoid them.

1. Indifference: This is the mild approach to life. Apathy. Brought on by lack of direction. CURE: Get worked up about something! Hang around strong-minded people. Become focused on and committed to your major goal in life.

2. Indecision: This is mental paralysis brought on by vacillating hesitancy. Indecision is the greatest thief of opportunity, time, and happiness. CURE: Learn to make decisions knowing some of them are going to be wrong.

3. Doubt: Doubt is about a chronically negative mind. This is just plain being too skeptical. Self-doubt is the worst kind because it self-limits and robs you of conviction. CURE: Trust God, people, and programs.

Tune in tomorrow for the rest. Until then, have a great day!

Frank Massine

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Then here is the first of eight steps you must take in my new program called Living Forward in Life. Learn to laugh sooner; laugh about your mistakes in life. Learn from your mistakes. When you can say to your friends ―Do you remember when… and everybody laughs and it‘s okay, then you are able to move forward. The key is to not wait for months or years or even a lifetime before you arrive at that point. Move the laughter forward and your life will move forward in a very positive way. Just let it go and set yourself free to experience the true abundance that was meant for you. That is my goal: to help you build a better you, one day at a time.

The Good Life Rules!

Bryan Dodge

Take a moment to heal by pausing and thinking about how much time has passed since an event like this has happened in your life, and how much have you missed in life because you haven‘t learned from the mistake of harboring regret. Then detach yourself from it by just choosing to live with my favorite three words ―Let It Go! By taking that one step, you will allow yourself to grow and thrive and be fulfilled because of the opportunities that you find in life. Wouldn‘t it make sense to just let it go, forget it, check it off as experience? Or just say to yourself ―everybody makes mistakes, that‘s just part of life, and then move on.

If the answer is yes, then why is it so hard for so many people to do just that? It is typical of human behavior to focus on the past instead of forward-thinking philosophy. Humans, without self-discipline, will often take the road of least resistance, meaning it is easier to hold on to what is hurting us than to go to a place that is unknown. We spend too much time worrying about what others think of us, when in reality, people have other things to think about than us! Are you ready to accept that there is a better way and a better life for you?

(Final section will be posted tomorrow)

The Good Life Rules!

Bryan Dodge

Do You Have a Vision?

The key to a successful life depends on your ability to create a personal vision. Not just a business vision, but a vision that will inspire you and those who depend on you. Now is the time when you must understand the need of a clear vision for your life—the reason you get up early and stay up late.

When your vision is clear, you find the energy you need to move your life forward, building a better you. You need to understand who you are and not try to sanitize everything and make it acceptable to everybody so that absolutely nobody could possibly be offended about anything. That’s not what the good life is all about! That’s not what beliefs and values are about. Beliefs and values are about knowing who you are and being able to accept other people as they are, without changing yourself and your vision.

A very close friend of mine has lost his ability to see, and over the past two years, they have removed both of his legs. He always reminds me that “they might have taken my ability to see, and my two legs, but they will never take my ability to have a vision and to move forward.” I see people in my programs every day who have perfect sight and two good legs. But they don’t have a vision or the ability to step forward. Why is that? Because people without vision cannot appreciate what they have until they lose it. Because they live an average life, average people only appreciate what they have after they lose it. I ask of you, please don’t live an average life. Life is too short to be average and too long not to find the good in your life.

People who live a good life understand that it’s not necessarily about having a concrete vision of what the end will be like. It’s about embracing the process of what you are willing to go through to get to where you belong. Your calling is to lead your own life by your own vision, so you end up somewhere specific. The first step towards that goal is who you are and why you are special. The second step is, knowing where you’re going and what your picture is for the future. And the third step is figuring out what will guide your behavior so you can specify your values. It is when your values match your vision the direction is clear.

That is why I do what I do every day in company meetings or on the radio each week. It is to remind you that it is your choice and it matters today more than ever. Choose your vision so you end up building a better you during your life. That is my word for you this month.

The Good Life Rules! Bryan Dodge

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