Fear and greed are what drives change. You’re either so fearful of what’s going to happen to you — and believe me, the thought of losing what you love most in life is scary—or you’re so tempted by what you can have that you do what’s necessary to get it. The question is: what drives you? If it’s fear, be a big boy or a big girl and accept it. If it’s greed—you feel like you want a bigger home, or a new boat—that’s fine, but you have to understand that those motivations are totally different. Fear is looking backward. Greed is looking forward. What is it that is going to inspire you to change?
Positive or negative, change is coming. Who’s going to pick it for you? Being a follower is never a recipe for satisfaction. You’re called to be the leader of your own life. You’re not called to have somebody else decide for you. It’s not the government’s job to dictate what you do. The number one step toward taking charge of your own life is looking in the mirror and saying, I’m changing because I want to change. It happened to me, and it’s the reason I have a wonderful wife and three great kids.
So many “self-help” books and “motivational” speakers have tried to give people easy-to- digest ways to change that the entire subject has almost become a cliché. And to be honest, most of them diminish how important change is—reducing it to some sort of superficial New Year’s Resolution process that will make you feel better about yourself for a few days or a few weeks.
In my best selling book “The Good Life Rules,” (available in book stores in North America, or from my website, www.bryandodge.com , click the link under the featured product on the home page), I share with you the eight rules for being your best at work and at play. But when it comes to making a successful change, I have to stress that understanding why change has to happen is more important than the physical steps to achieving it. Become a why-focused person and always remember those who focus on the “how” in life always end up working for those who focus on the “why.” I challenge each of you in the next 48 hours to e-mail me your why list, and I will send you a gift. Send that email to email@example.com . This list is crucial because that’s what generates all the energy and discipline for your efforts. If you’re inspired, you’re determination will help you succeed. In my book, I walk you through the actual steps you will take and the 48-hour action plan to recharge your life, and that process will change your life for the better.
I wish you the best that life has to offer you and those that depend on you.
Find the energy from within,