Are You Proactive or Reactive?

Why do so many people put off what they need to do today? You can find the answer in the way you choose to live your life, proactive or reactive. The Good Life Rules are all based on living a better life both at home and at work. Until you change to a proactive lifestyle from a reactive lifestyle, you will always blame procrastination. Don’t get me wrong; many people suffer from procrastination and it can steal the Good Life from you. So what are the keys that allow you to live a proactive life?

First key: Remove guilt. You were not born with a reactive mentality. You learned it over years of making mistakes, setting goals and not accomplishing them, or not setting goals at all. I once heard a person say “Guilty feelings are circular, but you need to move in a straight line with one foot in front of another.” Small steps can lead to giant gains and that is exactly what you can do to counteract all the guilt.

Second Key: Don’t get distracted. Never before has the human race had more distractions in their daily lives. It is important to realize that if the world keeps you distracted, you will not stop and think. And if you don’t think before making your choices, you will continue to make mistakes; you will continue that reactive mentality and continue to blame your failures on all the distractions in your life. Once you understand why thedistractions are in your life, controlling them gets easier. It is very important to create an environment that is more serene. You can escape to a tranquil mental setting by eliminating or minimizing noise and distractions, ensuring you have adequate lighting, and most importantly, living by one of my favorite sayings, “If you’re not in a hurry, don’t act like you are.”

Third key: Exercise. Those of you who feel fatigued and you just can’t get around to doing what you have to do, exercise! Ironically, when you are most tired and feel a lack of energy, exercise will provide a boost, raise your endorphins, and oxygenate the brain to think more clearly in your day to day choices. The key word is “think.” I know from personal experience—exercise promotes focused attention.

Fourth key: The Good Life has two major components: recognizing your gifts and taking action to bring them to fruition. As great as it feels to be able to see some of the important ideas that come into your head or heart for what they are—life-changing opportunities— that’s only one part of the puzzle. You’ve got to do something about them. And to me, a 48-hour time period is the perfect framework for taking action, because it gives you time to prepare yourself, but not enough time to procrastinate. So, always remember The Law of Diminishing Intent: what comes to your heart, you must act on it within 48-hours, or the world will distract you or steal it from you.

My wish every day is that I can find the words and energy to remind you that you are a “somebody,” not just an “anybody.” Somebodies are more proactive than reactive. Anybodies are more reactive than proactive. Somebodies understand that it is our choices that determine the course of our lives. To change our current course to a better life, you have to stop and think about your choices. To do so will change your philosophy, not your circumstances. Somebodies always take advantage of their circumstances created by their right choices.

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Bryan J. Dodge

Creating a Purpose-Guided Life

Building a purpose-guided life attains success. “A human being without a purpose is like a day without sunshine.” You will get through the day, but it will not be as clear or as bright. Your purpose in life is worth finding. Do not let fear or distractions stop you from finding your true potential in life. Arm yourself with a fighting attitude that will enable you to sail through both the hard and good times in life. Many people fail to find their true purpose because they have failed to take into account these two important attributes. Fear kills the attainment of a purpose-guided life because it stops you from pursuing choices you deem challenging or difficult. The lack of a fighting attitude also diminishes your energy levels making you powerless to tackle the daily challenges of a purpose- guided life.

If you hope to succeed, you must keep fighting and adjusting throughout your entire life for whatever it is you want to achieve. Constantly stay focused on the goals you have set for yourself and avoid falling prey to the five notorious focus killers of our times; the television, the newspaper, the radio (except my show each week of course), gossip, and, biggest of all, negative thinking. Never forget that what you’re seeking is also seeking you. If you’re seeking for success, success is also reaching out for you. If you’re seeking failure, intentionally or not, failure is also waiting to embrace you. You need to take into account the following factors to create a clear path to a better life for you:

• Be committed to work towards attaining your goals and your calling.
• Get rid of all the bad seeds hovering around you.
• Shun all negative forces that you used to associate with.
• Don’t elevate yourself when making judgments about others and yourself and avoid being pretentious.
• Always be honest and sincere with yourself and do what is right and just.
• Create a place where you can clearly reflect and evaluate your progress, and where you can tap into your courage to make the necessary changes in your life. This is the “barn” in my case or the rebooting location of your choice.

Here is a great idea that has worked for me for years. For the next 48 hours, don’t read any newspapers until after 3:00 pm. The key is that you get up in the morning and take a blank piece of paper, and with a big bold black marker write your own headline for the day. For example, recently I got up and wrote, “If focus had another name, it would be BRYAN DODGE. Look at how much he achieved in one day.” Try it and see how much energy and positivity you’ll have.

The Good Life Rules!
Bryan J. Dodge

The 45 Undeniable Truths of Life Part I

1. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF LOVE
What you feel in your heart you must act on it. It is the window of truth.

2. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF DIMINISHING INTENT
What you don’t act on with a 48 hour window, you will lose.

3. UNDENIABLE TRUTHS OF HABITS/CONTROL
You feel positive about yourself to the extent you feel you are in control. Values / Principles plus Actions will determine whether or not you are in control. If you’re working against this formula, you will create stress.

4. UNDENIABLE TRUTHS OF RESPONSIBILITY
You must take full responsibility for your actions.

5. UNDENIABLE TRUTHS OF COMPENSATION
Whatever you put in, you will get out. The more value you bring to your time, the more time will pay you for your value.

6. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF VALUE
Your rewards in life will be in direct proportion to the level of service or value that you offer life.

7. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF APPLIED EFFORT
All things are amenable to hard work. Balance is the key.

8. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF OVER-COMPENSATION
Always put in more than you take out.

9. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF PREPARATION
Professionals always take more time to prepare than others do.

10. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF ACTION
The more you take on based on activities, the more efficient you become.

11. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF MAKING A CHOICE
Nothing really happens until you make a choice. Right or wrong is better than no choice of all.

12. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF IMAGINATION
It is your imagination that creates opportunity.

13. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF AN OPEN MIND
Be clear on your goal, but be flexible on how you might attain it.

14. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF CONCENTRATION
The ability to stay on a task until completed. When you are where you are, be there.

15. UNDENIABLE TRUTH OF REST
You must have rest. Just don’t rest too long.

Your fan,

Bryan J. Dodge

It is important to remember that we are human beings. And being human, it is important to realize that we are designed to connect with others. It is the separation of that design that removes the happiness and fulfillment that we all need. It is that connection that allows you to live The Good Life. It is not our calling to go about our lives focused only on what we do at work, and then try to fit our personal lives into the cracks of the day.

I truly have a passion for what I do, and I’m focused on my mission in life. I want to help build a better world by helping you build a better you, one person at a time. I want to THANK YOU especially during this time of Thanksgiving for all that you have done to help me accomplish this goal. So many of you have supported me through all the years and you play an important role in my life. I’m very THANKFUL to have a special connection with you.

Our capacity for love, affection, warmth, and friendship are rich and reliable sources of human happiness. The key is to transform the “I” and “U” in our lives into “We.” Evolving our lives to a higher level allows us to cultivate a sense of belonging that brings rich rewards of human satisfaction, along with better physical, mental, and emotional health. The key is to connect with others. Connecting with the human race helps to strengthen the wider community and is vital to building a better you.

There’s no such thing as work-home balance.

That might be a strange way to start [an article] called “Find the Balance Between Work and Home,” but there really is no such thing.

I meet with corporate leaders every week, and I’m asked many of the same questions again and again. The CEOs want to know how to help their employees have more “work-home balance” because they think it’s a magic formula for increased productivity.

If you’re happy, are you going to be a better employee? Absolutely. Are you going to be better at being a dad or a mom or a friend? Of course. Does it have anything to do with punching a time clock, or the number of hours you work in a week? No way.

There’s no such thing as an artificially created “balance.” There isn’t some formula you can plug in that says you need to be at work for eight hours, then at home for ten before you can work another eight hours. It’d be nice if the real world was orderly that way, but we all know it isn’t.

In real life, you’re always either heading for a crisis or coming out of one. That’s just as true for a Fortune 500 company as it is for a family. My own family had to deal with health crises that included two blown-out knees and a broken back in a thirty-six-month period.

The balance that comes in The Good Life is more like the kind you use to ride a bike. You’re always pedaling, and if you start to tip a little bit to the left, you lean right to restore your equilibrium. If you overcorrect, then you need to lean a little more left to get back in balance.

If you let your work control you […] and if you keep saying to yourself, “I’m going to make just one more call, even though I said I’d be home before seven,” you’re losing sight of what the Good Life Is. If you committed to a big organizational meeting with your team at work, and you decide to play hooky so you can hang out with your son, you’ve also lost sight of what the Good Life is. Your job is not to work more hours nor is it to break your promises to the people in your professional life so that you can spend every moment at home. Your job is to get done what needs to be done—both at work and at home—with the time you have. It’s not a matter of finding more space on the schedule. It’s a matter of picking the right things to be on the schedule and having them on there at the right times.

This month’s article is an excerpt from my newest book, “The Good Life Rules,” which was released in January 2009 by McGraw-Hill. I can’t thank you enough for all the positive feedback that we have received from the book and for all the companies that have bought thousands of copies for their employees. If you haven’t read the book yet, go to [our webstore link] or any local book store. I promise you will not regret it.

The Good Life Rules!

Bryan Next to Book copy