Then here is the first of eight steps you must take in my new program called Living Forward in Life. Learn to laugh sooner; laugh about your mistakes in life. Learn from your mistakes. When you can say to your friends ―Do you remember when… and everybody laughs and it‘s okay, then you are able to move forward. The key is to not wait for months or years or even a lifetime before you arrive at that point. Move the laughter forward and your life will move forward in a very positive way. Just let it go and set yourself free to experience the true abundance that was meant for you. That is my goal: to help you build a better you, one day at a time.

The Good Life Rules!

Bryan Dodge

I speak to many executives from a variety of corporations every year and the resounding question that is posed to me is, ― If I am doing everything to be successful why am I still struggling to capture the happiness that comes with success? Many times in life, we fall prey to holding on to past regret, sorrow, disappointments, bitterness, and guilt. It doesn‘t make us feel good when we ponder these past indiscretions, but we can‘t seem to let them go. It hasn‘t helped us see tomorrow any better either, especially when we seem to be focusing on what happened to us yesterday. If only yesterday was the biggest problem.

I believe it‘s more like weeks, months, or even years past that build up too many negative thoughts, weighing people down with these regretful moments. They continue to pop up when you least expect them—times when you should be enjoying life. We push our lives into those negative places and we then find our emotional bucket being poured out. It creates a black hole deep inside us. It can get worse, though. This hole develops teeth that make the fall have a real bite, resulting in scars that can become infected if left unhealed.

To be continued …

The Good Life Rules!

Bryan Dodge

Leaders and Paperwork

It was a critical time during World War II. General Douglas MacArthur and his troops were camped at the side of a big river, and they had to cross it. MacArthur called in his engineer and said, “Soldier, how long will it take you to throw a bridge across this river?” The engineer replied, “Three days.” MacArthur said, “Good, have your draftsman draw up plans immediately.” Three days later, MacArthur called the engineer back into his office to ask how the bridge was coming along. “Sir,” replied the engineer, “the bridge is finished, and you can take your troops across now provided you don’t have to wait for the plans. They’re not done yet.”

The moral of this story is to keep your focus on the project and don’t get distracted with paperwork and other unimportant activities. The engineer demonstrated great leadership skills because he focused on the project of building the bridge and did not get bogged down in paperwork. High achievers and great leaders do just that. They hire others to do the paperwork and they stay focused on the business of running the company and on the important things like customer satisfaction, sales, and the general growth of the business.

The biggest time saver in dealing with paperwork is to handle a piece of paper only once. Complete it, delegate it, or throw it away. Leaders don’t get bogged down in paperwork. Like the engineer, leaders focus their energy and talent on building.

Frank Massine
Vice President, Dodge Development, Inc.

For the Good of Others

Life asks you to apply what you have, not any more or less, towards the betterment of others. As you choose to make a positive difference in others’ lives, it is important you understand how to be disciplined enough to enjoy the ride. Sometimes you can control where you are going and sometimes you can’t.

One point I emphasize in every seminar I teach is “If you focus on the things that you can’t control, you put yourself out of control. You must have enough discipline in your life to focus on what you can control, so you will stay in control.” It is very important for you to never forget that you can control how you think, feel, and respond. You control what you carry with you as you move ahead in life.

Resist the urge to fight against events or to become completely absorbed by them. Instead, find a way to use them positively and productively. There is so much more for you to gain in life when you focus on moving forward than when you become consumed by looking backward. Rather than getting hung up on how you got into a certain mess, become engaged about where you can go from here.

Life is a choice. All life asks of you is that you do what’s right for yourself. Many people search for the good life and get caught in an unfortunate trap. They do not celebrate and understand the good that is already present in their life. Every person has a choice in life. The key is to take time to think about your choices so you can prepare yourself for the future.

The Good Life Rules!

Bryan Dodge

Diligence Accomplishes Much

Recently I was listening to the pastor of one of today’s mega churches on television that numbers a strong 5,000 in weekly attendance. He was telling a story of his first job out of Seminary as a youth pastor. It was for a little church that only had 40 kids and he was the first youth pastor the church had ever had. They didn’t even have an office for him so he cleaned out a storage closet and put a small desk in it and demanded a phone. He said he showed up every morning at 7:30 and stayed until 5:30 in the evening. He always found something productive to do and a way to serve his little flock. All the while, he was envisioning that he was really pastor of a church of 400 members. He points to the habit of diligence that he formed back then as the number one contributing factor that made it possible for him to lead the large church he does now. He emphatically credits the quality of diligence as the major attribute to his leadership success.

What is diligence? It is more than just showing up, although faithfulness is one of the many components of diligence. It is patience, but a special kind of patience that has an element of vision and expectancy mixed in with it. It is being persistent with a reason. Diligence has as its foundation bricks of passion and enthusiasm. Diligence is that force that overcomes the impossible. It is the energetic application of a task with a much bigger mission in mind. If you are faithful and diligent in the little things, you will be rewarded with bigger responsibilities and privileges.

When you are diligent, you get up, dress up and show up with a smile, no matter how you feel. Great accomplishments are the rewards of the consistently diligent person. It is the secret ingredient of long lasting success.

Frank Massine
Vice President, Dodge Development, Inc.