WHAT IS DRIVING YOU?

On March 21, 2013, In @ Work, By Bryan Dodge

Fear and greed are what drives change. You’re either so fearful of what’s going to happen to you — and believe me, the thought of losing what you love most in life is scary—or you’re so tempted by what you can have that you do what’s necessary to get it. The question is: what drives you? If it’s fear, be a big boy or a big girl and accept it. If it’s greed—you feel like you want a bigger home, or a new boat—that’s fine, but you have to understand that those motivations are totally different. Fear is looking backward. Greed is looking forward. What is it that is going to inspire you to change?

Positive or negative, change is coming. Who’s going to pick it for you? Being a follower is never a recipe for satisfaction. You’re called to be the leader of your own life. You’re not called to have somebody else decide for you. It’s not the government’s job to dictate what you do. The number one step toward taking charge of your own life is looking in the mirror and saying, I’m changing because I want to change. It happened to me, and it’s the reason I have a wonderful wife and three great kids.

So many “self-help” books and “motivational” speakers have tried to give people easy-to- digest ways to change that the entire subject has almost become a cliché. And to be honest, most of them diminish how important change is—reducing it to some sort of superficial New Year’s Resolution process that will make you feel better about yourself for a few days or a few weeks.

In my best selling book “The Good Life Rules,” (available in book stores in North America, or from my website, www.bryandodge.com , click the link under the featured product on the home page), I share with you the eight rules for being your best at work and at play. But when it comes to making a successful change, I have to stress that understanding why change has to happen is more important than the physical steps to achieving it. Become a why-focused person and always remember those who focus on the “how” in life always end up working for those who focus on the “why.” I challenge each of you in the next 48 hours to e-mail me your why list, and I will send you a gift. Send that email to whylist@bryandodge.com . This list is crucial because that’s what generates all the energy and discipline for your efforts. If you’re inspired, you’re determination will help you succeed. In my book, I walk you through the actual steps you will take and the 48-hour action plan to recharge your life, and that process will change your life for the better.
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I wish you the best that life has to offer you and those that depend on you.
Find the energy from within,
Bryan Dodge

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YOU’RE THE BOSS FIRE YOUR BAD HABITS

On February 18, 2013, In @ Work, By Bryan Dodge

I believe with all my heart that this is a great time of the year to look in the mirror and decide what you must do to eliminate a destructive habit, whether it is obesity, habitually being late, profanity, smoking, having a short temper, alcoholism, promiscuity, etc.

The first and most important thing you must do is to decide that you are better than these habits. Always remember good habits seldom come to you, it is the bad habits that are easy to attract and make your life harder. You have to first decide that you are in charge of your life and then take responsibility for your life. This, my friend, is the first step towards building a better you.

Here is some practical advice. Seek after better habits and replace those bad habits that found you. With that mindset you will attract the habits that are harder to find and even harder to develop, but are easier to live with over time. That is a decision you and only you can make. Without this type of true inspiration on your part, no person or procedure will have any significant impact. If someone else or the world “talks you into it,” the chances are strong you will perhaps start but the effort will be short-lived. Many times you end up further behind than you would have been had you not attempted to quit a habit which you were not ready to give up.

It is important to be reminded that bad habits like when they have a place to stay and will fight back when you are trying to fire them from your life. So first, and most importantly, decide you no longer are going to be a slave to any destructive habit. It’s your life, and you are the boss of your life. It’s time to fire those habits that need to be fired so you can hire better habits that will help you achieve that control you need over your life to accomplish a better you both at work and at home.

Fight for your own best interest. I want you to have that wonderful feeling of being free. Decide today, not tomorrow that this is what you want for your life. Choose to do things with your life instead of having things done to your life. Remember it is your life, and last time I checked you’re the boss.

Building a better you starts with building better habits.

I wish you the best that life has to offer you and those that depend on you.
Find the energy from within,
Bryan Dodge

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The Gift

On June 21, 2011, In @ Work, By Bryan Dodge

As the story goes that some time ago a mother punished her 5 year old daughter for wasting a roll of expensive gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and she became even more upset when the child used the gold paper to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift box to her mother the next morning and said, “This is for you, Momma.”
The mother was embarrassed by her earlier over reaction, but her anger flared again when she opened the box and found it was empty. She spoke to her daughter in a harsh manner. “Don’t you know, young lady, when you give someone a present there’s supposed to be something inside the package?”
The little daughter had tears in her eyes and said, “Oh, Momma, it’s not empty! I blew kisses into it until was full.”
The mother was crushed. She fell on her knees and put her arms around her little girl, and she begged for forgiveness for her thoughtless anger.
An accident took the life of the child only a short time later, and it is told that the mother kept the gold box by her bed for all the years of her life. Whenever she was discouraged or faced difficult problems, she would open the box and take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.
In a very real sense, each of us, as human beings, has been given a golden box filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, family, friends and GOD. There is no more precious possession anyone could hold.
The Golden Box story was given to me by a friend. I wanted to share it with all of you this month. I wish that all of you would be reminded that you too have a golden box that can help you share the love for others.

Bryan J. Dodge
Dodge Development, Inc

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Choose to Value Your Values!

On March 2, 2011, In @ Home, @ Professionalism, @ Work, By Bryan Dodge

The Important and Enduring Ideals

Take a minute out of your busy schedule and contemplate – What are the ideals that you value most in your life?  Put anyone in a crisis situation, and suddenly, all they value in life comes into hyper focus.  Do you value your job (and what the money earned can buy) over family, friends, or faith?  If you’re not careful, over time, you will take for granted what you value most and replace it with whatever you spend most of your time doing.  

Most importantly, you have to guard against losing the value of personal choice. We all have it, but seldom use it.  In the United States of America, we are granted freedom and have boundless opportunities.  Even in the reality of the present economic and political turbulence, there is opportunity to advance.  Other important values consist of love and friendship and the ability to find our talents, both learned and innate.

I want to remind you of the values that bring our life alive and not the circumstances we find ourselves in at the moment.  It is time to rediscover the true value that you were meant to bring to this world, the value that will leave ‘your footprint’ long after your time here on earth.  Think further with me, will you?  What happens when you focus on your values and then realize that they will be confronted with adverse circumstances?  Therein lays the human dilemma.  Those circumstances, combined with the passage of time, can diminish the worth of your values until you can no longer see them or remember they ever existed.

Over the years, I have seen it in the eyes of my programs’ attendees.  Time and distractions have stolen away the greatest of all values—it is your birthright—and that is, your child-like excitement to have faith, courage, and enthusiasm in yourself and in your future.  I have shared these three words with my team and audiences all over the country and world for over two decades.  You owned these three values in abundance as a child, but now, it is your focus on knowledge, prestige, and position that has taken away your greatest asset.  You find yourself anticipating failure rather than pursuing success.  You see rejection first, rather than respect.  Your negativity has resulted in an inability to achieve your goals and to develop your true dream in life.

It is important to remember that tomorrow will soon become today, and along with it, the chance that you might miss a new opportunity to see the values in life you possess.  Tomorrow gradually becomes our escape from today.  We say to ourselves, “I’ll start tomorrow” or “Things will be better tomorrow.”  However, something always seems to happen in the transition of tomorrow becoming today, and possibly even making yesterday forgotten.  If you can discipline yourself today, focus on what’s important, and pursue your personal plan to make tomorrow better, all of your values will come to fruition.  You will need this level of focus to produce the results you require for this moment in time.  It is not a gift; it is a responsibility.  It is not an entitlement; it is a choice.

 The Good Life Rules!

Bryan J. Dodge

  

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