What does your face say about you?

Living a better life both at work and at home starts with your ability to smile more often than not. Life is to short not to be happy, and way too long not to learn how to tell your face that. Whenever you get a grin on your face, your brain is releasing serotonin, the happy hormone. Smiling is the natural way to force your-self to be happy. Many people even smile for five minutes straight in the morning to get themselves in a great mood for the day. It is a very powerful tool that is utilized less and less as we grow older and need happiness more than ever. Just remember that while happiness leads to smiles, smiles also lead to a better you.

To keep that smile you must also learn to be unaffected by the words of others. Most people get very upset when they are called negative names by others; I use a simple trick to overcoming this. Here it is: If I went up to you and called you a dog, would you be upset? Of course not, obviously you are not a dog you are a human being. The same concept applies to when someone calls you something that you know you are not. They are foolish for saying such things, so why would you react with such anger? The only exception is when someone calls you something that is true! In this case, you should thank them for alerting you to a weakness, one that you can now work on changing. Good advice to building a better you.

Bryan Dodge – President
Dodge Development
www.dodgedevelopment.com

It is Time to Stop Managing Down and Start Coaching Up!

Manager: a person who has control or direction of a business, or of a part, division, or phase of it.

Coach: a person who gives instruction or advice to elevate the performance of an individual or student.

Business men and women are looking for leaders who demonstrate an enthusiastic and genuine belief in others and who strengthens their will to succeed. Look at the two definitions above and think about which of those people is going to get the results needed in business today. Coaching is all about focusing on the talent of the person, and not so much about the production of the job description given when hired. Yes, businesses hire a manager to control the output of sales in order to control the outcome or production of business. However, if the focus is on enhancing the talents of hired staff, I believe the outcome will be greatly improved. Coaches focus on supplying the means to achieve, not on the fear of employees losing their jobs. It is the title of “coach” that helps to express optimism for the future with a firm walk in life.

A coach must keep hope alive from within the person. They must always strengthen their players’ belief that life’s struggles will produce a more promising future. This evolves into an intimate and supportive relationship, a relationship based not on pure authority, but on mutual participation that results in an inner renewal. The coach sees the good in you, and it is his or her job to bring the good out and place you in a position where your talent matches the task so success is almost a given. It is when you put people in positions of your needs that you are thinking like a manager, not a coach. Your job isn’t to put people in a position of your need; it is to put them in a position where they will succeed.

All great coaches find ways to change up the game plan in order to get tried and true results. Different competitions, changing up strategies, having employee input ideas from the field – all these things help to get your team engaged in the company’s goals and have some friendly competition to bolster energy for production. A manager without a coaching strategy might simply post the goals of the company for the quarter and give no input as to how to achieve those goals. This kind of manager is relying on the talents of the sales staff, but not enhancing or improving upon past performance. Yes, the coaching up manager is going to have to be creative.

Business owners should be looking for that quality in a coach for their team. Coaches, study your competition. There are strategies out there that are proven in the market place and should be followed, just like the skills to make a three point jumper shot at the buzzer. Perfect practice makes perfect. Follow your team on the road to help them to continue following proven principles your company has set. But by all means, have some fun with some friendly competition.

During these uncertain and changing times, those who take the title of Coach lead with a positive, confident, can-do approach to life and business, something that is so needed with the people I see each week. The feedback I receive from investing hundreds of hours each year with people is that they want a leader with a coaching focus, not a managing agenda. These people want to believe that we all are part of a journey, and this is not just a job or a task. They seem to gravitate toward people with a can–do attitude, not those who always seem to have a reason why something can’t be done. It is when the pressure is on that the title Coach becomes so important. A manager thinks one way and a coach thinks another. A coach says, “I asked you to be on this team because I believe in who you are as a person, not just as a player.”

The good coach sees what is good on the inside and brings it out. A manager sees what is on the outside and pushes it in. I hope this month’s e-Zine will find you coaching up for success.

The Good Life Rules!

Bryan Dodge

The 7 Diseases of the Attitude* Cont.

“Most of the articles that I write for this monthly e-Zine have to do with personal character traits. I believe leadership is all about character and attitude. This includes things like temperament, personality, disposition, energy, stamina, strength, and most importantly, moral fiber. All of these areas require learning and discipline. The following seven negative character traits are listed to help you recognize them and avoid them.” (Taken from the Aug. 10th blog post)

4. Worry: Comes from fear and is fed by indecision. Worry is wasted mental energy forged in idleness. It causes health problems, social problems, economic problems, and family problems. Most of what we worry about never happens. CURE: Take action.

5. Over-caution: Timid approach to life and definitely not a leadership quality. Brought on by failing to take risks when an opportunity arises. CURE: Focus on the benefit of the opportunity, not on the risk.

6. Pessimism: Gloomiest possible view of a situation that develops into a false mental image that becomes insurmountable and overwhelming. CURE: Focus on the good in every person and situation. Tell yourself, “This is not a problem; I can do it!”

7. Complaining: Whining, crying, griping, and expressing dissatisfaction and resentment. People who engage in constant complaining are not interested in results and tend to pull themselves and others down emotionally and physically. CURE: Develop a cheerful, happy, positive outlook on life.

Sorry, but there is no immunization for these diseases. We all suffer from them at one time or another, and to some degree or another. Like any disease, the important thing is to recognize it in its early stage and apply the cure.

*In one of my personal journals dated November 1990, I found notes that I apparently had taken from a seminar I had attended, but did not write down the name of the instructor, so I cannot give credit. I Googled the title and found an article similar to my notes, but no author was credited. Although the title and general outline were authored by someone else, the comments are mostly mine.

Frank Massine

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The 7 Diseases of the Attitude*

Most of the articles that I write have to do with personal character traits. I believe leadership is all about character and attitude. This includes things like temperament, personality, disposition, energy, stamina, strength, and most importantly, moral fiber. All of these areas require learning and discipline. The following seven negative character traits are listed to help you recognize them and avoid them.

1. Indifference: This is the mild approach to life. Apathy. Brought on by lack of direction. CURE: Get worked up about something! Hang around strong-minded people. Become focused on and committed to your major goal in life.

2. Indecision: This is mental paralysis brought on by vacillating hesitancy. Indecision is the greatest thief of opportunity, time, and happiness. CURE: Learn to make decisions knowing some of them are going to be wrong.

3. Doubt: Doubt is about a chronically negative mind. This is just plain being too skeptical. Self-doubt is the worst kind because it self-limits and robs you of conviction. CURE: Trust God, people, and programs.

Tune in tomorrow for the rest. Until then, have a great day!

Frank Massine

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Winning Attitude of a Leader

I recently watched the Russell Crowe movie, “Master and Commander.” The setting was 1805 during the Napoleonic Wars. Crowe, who portrayed the brash British captain Jack Aubrey, pushes his ship and crew to their limits in pursuit of the formidable French war vessel, Acheron. It was obvious that the writers of this movie depicted winning leadership skills. After his first encounter with this enemy ship, Crow managed to escape in the fog. He learned that the French war ship was far superior in size, power, and capability to his small ship and crew. He had a choice of retreating to England and admitting defeat or to do the impossible: repair his ship, catch up to his enemy, and defeat the great Acheron somehow.

This movie was a great lesson in leadership. I noticed right away that Captain Jack Aubrey was singular in vision. His orders were to defeat or capture Acheron. Fulfilling this task was his complete focus. He determined in his heart to find a way to win this battle. I also noticed that he knew he needed the talents of each member of his crew. He gave his entire crew the inspiration, empowerment, and direction required to win. The third strategy he employed was to train a strong team. He knew he was in charge, but he also cultivated leaders underneath him. He was well regarded by his entire crew; they respectfully called him Lucky Jack. They learned to trust him implicitly. He needed that trust when he took them into battle.

The tag line on the video case read “The Courage to Do the Impossible Lies in the Hearts of Men.” Jack Aubrey carefully used his learned leadership skills to defeat his enemy. We are all leaders in some area. How dedicated are you at winning at your “game?” Are you training yourself and others to fight when the difficult times come, or are you going to turn tail and let the situation set you back? How you answer that question may very well determine whether you succeed or fail as a leader.

Frank Massine
Dodge Development, Inc.