This is perhaps one of the most challenging subject matters that I have ever written about. The reason I have not given up on addressing this subject is because I believe it is one of those “cutting edge” differences that separate success from failure and high achievers from average performers.
This subject is not a popular one, but I believe it is integral to one’s success. The reason it’s not popular is because it is a discipline. Every discipline has a corresponding freedom and benefit. The purpose of a discipline is the benefit. Our aim, e.g., freedom, assurance, or reward, is the benefit and not the discipline. The discipline is for realizing the greater good. This article is about submission. We don’t want to simply look at submission, but rather we want to realize the freedom or benefit it brings.
What freedom corresponds to submission? In my opinion, it is the ability to lay down the burden of always needing to get our own way. The obsession of demanding that we always get our way is one of the greatest hindrances in relationships. In the discipline of submission, we must release the matter from our own universe and forget about it. Frankly, most issues in life are not as big as they first appear in our psyche. We convince ourselves that a critical issue is at stake; usually it is not. This is what causes most “office politics” problems or hard feelings within an organization. Only in submission can we bring a self-serving spirit to a place where it no longer controls us. Only submission can free us sufficiently to enable us to distinguish between genuine issues and stubborn self- will.
Submission is an ethical theme. It is a position obligator that says: I value other people. I value my co-workers. I count others as good as or better than myself.
I hold others’ interests above my own. I always think well and highly of others. I look for the good in other people.
The real issue is the spirit of consideration and respect we have for each other.
By taking this approach, we enter into a new, wonderful, and glorious freedom – the freedom to give up our own rights for the good of others. For the first time, we can then accept people unconditionally. It means, we set ourselves free from the destructive anger and bitterness we feel when someone doesn’t act toward us the way we think they should. I once had a manager often encourage us to be cohesive when he was attempting to accomplish a team spirit around a project or deadline. I don’t know of a better way to gain cohesiveness than to practice the discipline of submission. The reward for good service, such as submitting to the needs of customers, will bring financial stability and longevity.
In conclusion, let me mention one more phenomenon that may be racing through your mind, and that is the matter of identity. Submission does not mean the loss of our identity, as one might think. The opposite is true; submission will exalt. Submission will catapult a person’s success faster than anything. An employee who serves well and submits to his employer will receive honors, favors, and promotions by that employer. A person who submits to a system will get promoted by that system. Submission, like all disciplines, will reward those who serve.
Vice President, Dodge Development, Inc.