Choose to Value Your Values!

The Important and Enduring Ideals

Take a minute out of your busy schedule and contemplate – What are the ideals that you value most in your life?  Put anyone in a crisis situation, and suddenly, all they value in life comes into hyper focus.  Do you value your job (and what the money earned can buy) over family, friends, or faith?  If you’re not careful, over time, you will take for granted what you value most and replace it with whatever you spend most of your time doing.  

Most importantly, you have to guard against losing the value of personal choice. We all have it, but seldom use it.  In the United States of America, we are granted freedom and have boundless opportunities.  Even in the reality of the present economic and political turbulence, there is opportunity to advance.  Other important values consist of love and friendship and the ability to find our talents, both learned and innate.

I want to remind you of the values that bring our life alive and not the circumstances we find ourselves in at the moment.  It is time to rediscover the true value that you were meant to bring to this world, the value that will leave ‘your footprint’ long after your time here on earth.  Think further with me, will you?  What happens when you focus on your values and then realize that they will be confronted with adverse circumstances?  Therein lays the human dilemma.  Those circumstances, combined with the passage of time, can diminish the worth of your values until you can no longer see them or remember they ever existed.

Over the years, I have seen it in the eyes of my programs’ attendees.  Time and distractions have stolen away the greatest of all values—it is your birthright—and that is, your child-like excitement to have faith, courage, and enthusiasm in yourself and in your future.  I have shared these three words with my team and audiences all over the country and world for over two decades.  You owned these three values in abundance as a child, but now, it is your focus on knowledge, prestige, and position that has taken away your greatest asset.  You find yourself anticipating failure rather than pursuing success.  You see rejection first, rather than respect.  Your negativity has resulted in an inability to achieve your goals and to develop your true dream in life.

It is important to remember that tomorrow will soon become today, and along with it, the chance that you might miss a new opportunity to see the values in life you possess.  Tomorrow gradually becomes our escape from today.  We say to ourselves, “I’ll start tomorrow” or “Things will be better tomorrow.”  However, something always seems to happen in the transition of tomorrow becoming today, and possibly even making yesterday forgotten.  If you can discipline yourself today, focus on what’s important, and pursue your personal plan to make tomorrow better, all of your values will come to fruition.  You will need this level of focus to produce the results you require for this moment in time.  It is not a gift; it is a responsibility.  It is not an entitlement; it is a choice.

 The Good Life Rules!

Bryan J. Dodge

  

Living Forward in Life

To live forward in life, you must be aware of how important it is to always put forth your best. It is clear to me that a major reason we find ourselves and our economy in a position that isn’t as strong as it should be is because too many Americans have not been putting forth their best effort for too long. This has caught up with us, both at work and at home. We must remember that our actions affect other peoples’ lives both positively and negatively. Your actions are a result of your thoughts and awareness each moment in the day.

It is through conscious awareness and clarity of thought that you find the inspiration to stand strong. If you are not paying attention, you can get side-tracked by others’ emotions and pulled into agreement with the illusions of other peoples’ beliefs. This can happen easily if your beliefs are not clear and strong. Limited beliefs can cause you to question your abilities and your worthiness. You must tap into the source of your own beliefs, strengths, and goals. By doing so, you produce the thoughts that move your life forward. This is how you defend yourself from the illusions in life that cause you to suffer. This process of confirming your beliefs has to be done more than once, because the illusion does not always take the same form, nor does it always have the same story attached to it. When you are consciously aware, you will make your choices from a stronger position in life, if you fall asleep at the wheel for an instant, you may get results you don’t want. Stay focused on the choices that are for the highest good, the ones that truly inspire your heart.

This will keep you living forward in a way that will attract positive momentum. Always remember; your belief is what embraces your heart, it may not be what others hold as their beliefs or truths. Your awareness is the window that allows you to see clearly. Always remember, “When you are where you are, be there.” This is what matters most in building a better you.

Your fan for life, Bryan J. Dodge

When You Are Where You Are – Be There!

One morning, John, an ambitious climber of the corporate ladder, was about to leave for the office when he heard his wife yelling for him from the laundry room. Upon entering the laundry room, he saw that his wife was holding a towel over a broken water line, screaming, “Do something!” John ran outside to the water meter and turned the main valve off. He then went back in to look at the problem and saw that the pipe leading to the washing machine had burst. He had a big work load at the office, so he told his wife that she needed to call a plumber. She said no because the plumbing was his responsibility. He insisted that she take care of it and left a very angry wife dealing with a situation that he should have taken care of. As he drove to the office, he felt bad because he knew in his heart he did the wrong thing.

At the office later that morning, one of his business associates called from the country club and said that they needed one more person to complete a foursome and asked if he would join them at the club for an 11:00 tee time. He wanted to please his business buddy, so he left his work and headed for the club, knowing that he would be under pressure for not meeting his deadlines.

That day, John had one of the worst games that he had ever played. Why? Because his heart was back at home with his wife, his mind was back at the office worrying how he was going to get caught up, and his body was on the golf course. This was a case of not having it all together.

In this little story, I used a negative situation to call attention to the positive. To be productive in a situation, it is important to be engaged mentally, emotionally, and physically. So when you are somewhere, be there mind, soul, and body.

Forgiveness

Many times in life, we fall prey to holding on to past regret, sorrow, disappointment, bitterness, and guilt. It doesn’t make us feel good when we ponder these past indiscretions, but we can’t seem to let them go. I discussed this topic in last month’s e- Zine. The key ingredient to living a better life is to ―let it go and learn to laugh sooner. The feedback I received from this statement was about what you would expect. How could anyone let the past go that easily or even begin to laugh when the hurt was so devastating to begin with? The best way for me to answer that question is to inspire you to choose to live your life from this day forward by changing the way you think.

Nothing changes in life until you change. The change starts when you transform from a reactive state to a life of hope for tomorrow. It is easier to hate than to love if you haven’t learned the art of forgiveness. How can anyone move forward if they are stuck in the past? Alexander Pope, in ― An Essay on Criticism writes, “To err is human, to forgive divine.” We all make mistakes. You must understand that not only are you human, but other people are human, too. Be a student of the truth in life. Any religious philosophy that preaches forgiveness also speaks about loving your neighbor. We don’t have to like what they do. The simple truth is those that forgive first live a better life sooner because they can move forward with their dreams. Forgiveness, however, can be a problem for many people simply because they are not clear about what forgiveness really is.

The simple definition of forgiveness is the refusal to hurt the one who hurt you. This ―refusal to hurt‖ can take many forms, depending on the circumstances, and it encompasses everything from the refusal to ―get even with‖ others, to the refusal to prove to others—with arguments, protest, violence, or even self-sabotage—how important it is that you are right and the other person is wrong. Common sense will tell you that focusing your brainpower on living forward is to understand that forgiveness, by itself, is psychologically preferable to holding a grudge. Bitterness works like a mental poison that doesn’t hurt anyone but you. Seeking revenge or wishing harm to another will, at the minimum, deplete your strength and prevent your wounds from healing. In the worst case, the hunger for revenge will make you into a victimizer yourself. Lacking forgiveness, you both will be locked together in living a life of revenge.

It’s really hard to find a better you, when you are focused on revenge. So even though someone hurts you and refuses to apologize, and even if this means that the relationship cannot be repaired, you can still offer forgiveness—for the sake of choosing to live a better life, by choosing to live forward each day of your life and not allowing yesterday’s mistakes to take away tomorrow’s opportunities. Try spending your time on what you can change. This was President Kennedy’s philosophy and I think you would agree he was a smart man. After a recent program, a gentleman came up to me, said that he was not very happy with himself, and asked if I had any recommendations. I told him not to stay that way very long. I reminded him that life is too short not to be happy. That’s common sense thinking, isn’t it? That, my friends, is good old common sense, and some really good critical thinking on your part.

Join me each Saturday from 4:00 to 5:00 pm on WBAP 820 AM and 96.7 FM for my live broadcast radio show which covers topics like these in greater detail. You can also listen to any of my shows by going to www.bryandodge.com and clicking on the Radio tab. I am now completing my 4th year on radio, and the numbers continue to grow beyond all of my expectations. I thank you for listening when you can, and the suggestions that you make help the ―Building A Better You hour grow tremendously. We can make a difference in America, so let’s put for our best foot forward each day. Forgiveness will allow you to do just that.

Living forward in life begins with complete forgiveness.

Bryan J. Dodge